Asexuals dating sexuals
I recently published a story about my experiences as a person who is asexual.
Writing this story felt important to me because there are a lot of misconceptions about asexuality and many well-intentioned people who, consequently, have no idea how to be supportive.
If you’re still unsure, here is a list of questions to help guide your thoughts.
They’re not meant as a checklist to “diagnose” asexuality, rather, they describe feelings that many asexual people have had.
For many asexual people this is deeply confusing, because it’s difficult to know how to respond to a person who can frivolously joke about the authenticity of our identity.
At worst, it’s laden with rape culture and threatening language.
They think of a celibate monk on far off mountaintop. And like being straight or being gay, it’s about what someone feels, not what someone does. In some cases, they experience sexual attraction only rarely.
Experiencing arousal or orgasm also do not conflict with asexuality. Demisexuality and gray-asexuality fall within what’s called the “asexual spectrum”.
Their top responses are as follows: This is the worst by far in my opinion.
At best, it’s a joke that delegitimizes our identity by suggesting asexuality is something that will just go away with a good lay.
It is not uncommon for asexuals to experience romantic attraction.
Romantic orientations are given names that parallel sexual orientations.